How Do I Work With Difficult People In A Difficult World?
August/31/2024 12:40 PM Filed in: CrossWinds | Culture
There is no shortage of conflict. The evening news features conflict at home and wars abroad. Everywhere we look, people can’t agree. Sometimes, we can avoid difficult people, but many times, we can’t. How should we handle the conflicts we can’t ignore? Here are five bits of wisdom from the book of Proverbs on working with tough people.
- Learn to avoid arguments. Getting into an argument doesn’t take wisdom. Any fool can do that. It takes wisdom to stay out of arguments. Once an argument begins, each side digs in their heels. Willingness to hear someone else’s point of view and change one’s heart becomes almost impossible. When we start to argue, the reason for the argument is quickly superseded by the hostility experienced. Proverbs 17:14 says, “Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam, so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” Arguments always go farther than we want and cause more damage than we expect. We can relate to this with the spring flooding. Once a dam is breached, the water erodes more of the dam, letting more flood waters through until incalculable damage is done and the floodwaters are impossible to stop. Isn’t that a good picture of what happens when we argue? Wisdom reminds us that we should turn away from arguments, rather than lean into them.
